Mrs Myrtle Fay White Eulogy

Mrs Myrtle Fay White

 affectionately known to all as Fay was born on Sunday, June 22, 1952, in the district of Coultart Grove just outside of Claremont in the parish of St Ann. She was the third child of Mr. Steadman and Mrs. Ruby White.

She attended school at the Claremont All Age School from which she graduated at age 15. At Age 18 years she left home and journeyed to Kingston to take up a job and to pursue her future. Two years later she met Roland White through a girlfriend whose boyfriend was a friend of Roland. That meeting led to a lifelong relationship that was consummated in marriage on November 17th, 1979. On that day Miss White became Mrs. White, you see Myrtle May White was White squared: White by birth multiplied by marriage.

This Union produced three children: Sanet Sandra, Wayne Ascot and Simone Natricia. The White family has lived at one address: 1a Widcombe Road, which was Roland’s family home. This epitomizes the constancy and stability of this family that has never gone from pillar to post but offered all its members the security of always knowing where home is.

In personality, Fay was dignified, disciplined and decent, in every sense of the word. She was quiet, loving, kind and given to hospitality. Fay was in her ‘ackee’ when she was serving people and trying to make them feel accepted and at home.

As a daughter, she was obedient and respectful of her parents. She was not a “goody-goody” child she was a good child. You see Myrtle May White was the genuine article. There was never anything phony or deceptive about her.

As a sister, she was the one to turn to when the other sibling got into trouble. She would always find a way to bail them out of what the difficulties were. Alton her brother recalls that she was the bearer of many secrets because by nature she was a very confidential person. At the same time, Fay would always encourage others to do the right.

As a wife, Roland is in no doubt that she was once, twice and three times a Lady. In his view, she was the most wonderful wife a man could hope for and have. Fay was indeed wonderful lady and wife. She was industrious, loving, and totally loyal and committed to her husband and family.

As a mother, she was strict and stern in ensuring that her children were brought up properly. Myrtle May White insisted that her children, particularly her daughters, brought home their friends and not use the streets as their meeting place. When her children brought their friends home she treated them in such a manner that everyone was comfortable. That blend of strictness coupled with sociability resulted in her children developing great confidence in her. She was not only their mother but also their friend. Simone insists that she hid nothing from her mother but confided in her as her closest friend. She was proud of her children and gave them every support and encouragement. She was as pleased as a pumpkin with Wayne’s performance in school and on the track. She gave up working to be with Sandra’s twin boys who she adored. Her family was her life.

As an aunt, she was always involved with the welfare of her nieces and nephews. At every occasion, particularly holidays she took the opportunity to visit family and maintain contact and fellowship. She went out of her way to make others happy.

As a worker, Mrs. Myrtle May White was competent, conscientious, reliable, honest and trustworthy. I can speak from personal experience. Mrs. White is only one of two persons that I have ever given the keys to my house with the permission to go three when we were not there. Mrs. White became a friend of our family with whom we always kept in touch.

In 1992 she developed the dreaded big C and underwent surgery followed by therapy thereafter. She fought the disease with quiet determination and went into remission. We were all so very happy for her. Despite the fact that she had regular checkups and followed the advice of her doctors carefully, the disease recurred at the beginning of this year. Again with quiet resolve, she put up a strong fight. Fay was not a complainer. Neither did she curse her fate. There was a Stoic element in her character. When you visited her she tried to cheer you up. She bore the pain with fortitude and a good spirit.

On Thursday, October 19, as the sun was setting, God called her home. For years Mrs. White was a regular visitor to the Church of God, Holiness on East Street in Kingston. Indeed, Simone was christened there. However, early in the 1990s, she became a member of this church, the Church of God of Prophecy. Myrtle May White knew the Lord. She depended on Him. She had lived a good life. She was still young. But He who knows all things and works all things to the good of those who love and serve him decided that He would take her to Himself.

Today we give God thanks for the life of one who was loving and we all loved. We share in the grief of her family, as she appears to be gone from them all too soon. We are perplexed by the fact that a good woman is taken so soon while wicked people run rampant in the land.

But in the midst of our perplexity, we draw inspiration from the life of Myrtle May White who lived by the simple but profound virtues of faith in God, love for family and friends, hard work as the means of earning a livelihood, honesty and integrity in dealing with others, compassion and care for all those who came within her sphere of influence and kindness as the hallmark of a good heart. Her passing reminds us that we must all go through this door at some time.

May her soul rest in peace and light eternal shine upon her.